Do nice guys finish last in the girlfriend game?

Are you interested in finding a girlfriend?  If you’ve been struggling with getting a girl, and are keen to find a good women and develop a harmonious relationship, read on.This is the first blog of a series, which is going to feature advice to men on how to succeed in the world of dating women.  What this blog won’t feature, is any advice on how to become a ‘pick-up artist’, to ‘neg’ women or to deceive them for sex.

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Negotiating the world of attraction, dating and relationships is something we’re all, particularly men, expected to somehow have been born knowing how to do. But… we don’t.

nice guy on date with his hot girlfriendWomen often assume that men know what they’re doing in this area, and put down what is actually unsure or shy behaviour to lack of interest, or even dislike. (And, men often think the same about women’s behaviour.) For men, this can be even more difficult as traditionally men are expected to take the lead in the dating dance.

As this is an area of life so fraught with expectations, pressure and heartache, many myths have built up around it; damaging beliefs held by both genders.

One of the most widespread, is the male belief that women are only attracted to ‘bad boys’; to the nasty bastards, the smooth-talking cads of the world.  Guess what?

It’s not true.

One of the main reasons that such types appear to enjoy success with women is that they are part of the very small percentage who are actually brave enough to start talking to a woman they don’t know!   This sounds basic, but, think about it, if there’s no initial conversation, you can’t possibly start a relationship with someone.  You’re not even entering the race. I’m sorry to say, lads, that looking longingly across a room at a girl all night is not enough!  

While you’re staring into your beer, thinking about how much you’d like to be brave enough, Mr Nasty Bastard is over there chatting her up, getting her number, and beginning a short-lived, unhappy (and possibly abusive) relationship with her. She is then left, believing even more firmly that all men are bastards, and you have your opinion that women don’t like nice guys once more endorsed.  A lose/lose situation.

But, good news for you – Mr Nice Guy reading this blog – nice guys really can finish first!  You are the bloke that attractive girl really wants, you’re just not finding each other.

Read this blog tomorrow and I’ll post a new article explaining how you can acquire some of the traits of the ‘bad guy’ – but only the good ones! And thus acquire the girl.

I’ll end with a quotation, which sums up the crux of the bad guy gets girl problem:‘The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity.’William Butler Yeats