Do nice guys finish last in the girlfriend game?

Are you interested in finding a girlfriend?  If you’ve been struggling with getting a girl, and are keen to find a good women and develop a harmonious relationship, read on.This is the first blog of a series, which is going to feature advice to men on how to succeed in the world of dating women.  What this blog won’t feature, is any advice on how to become a ‘pick-up artist’, to ‘neg’ women or to deceive them for sex.

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Negotiating the world of attraction, dating and relationships is something we’re all, particularly men, expected to somehow have been born knowing how to do. But… we don’t.

nice guy on date with his hot girlfriendWomen often assume that men know what they’re doing in this area, and put down what is actually unsure or shy behaviour to lack of interest, or even dislike. (And, men often think the same about women’s behaviour.) For men, this can be even more difficult as traditionally men are expected to take the lead in the dating dance.

As this is an area of life so fraught with expectations, pressure and heartache, many myths have built up around it; damaging beliefs held by both genders.

One of the most widespread, is the male belief that women are only attracted to ‘bad boys’; to the nasty bastards, the smooth-talking cads of the world.  Guess what?

It’s not true.

One of the main reasons that such types appear to enjoy success with women is that they are part of the very small percentage who are actually brave enough to start talking to a woman they don’t know!   This sounds basic, but, think about it, if there’s no initial conversation, you can’t possibly start a relationship with someone.  You’re not even entering the race. I’m sorry to say, lads, that looking longingly across a room at a girl all night is not enough!  

While you’re staring into your beer, thinking about how much you’d like to be brave enough, Mr Nasty Bastard is over there chatting her up, getting her number, and beginning a short-lived, unhappy (and possibly abusive) relationship with her. She is then left, believing even more firmly that all men are bastards, and you have your opinion that women don’t like nice guys once more endorsed.  A lose/lose situation.

But, good news for you – Mr Nice Guy reading this blog – nice guys really can finish first!  You are the bloke that attractive girl really wants, you’re just not finding each other.

Read this blog tomorrow and I’ll post a new article explaining how you can acquire some of the traits of the ‘bad guy’ – but only the good ones! And thus acquire the girl.

I’ll end with a quotation, which sums up the crux of the bad guy gets girl problem:‘The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity.’William Butler Yeats

10 Things You Didn’t Know About First Dates

Here’s a list of things to do on the first date to improve your chances of getting a second one. When I use them, I make women very attracted to me.

#1 – Cocky Comedy Makes Her Want You

Using the Cocky and Funny technique is the best way to build the attraction on the first date. The first time I used this technique, it looked like magic. Women started writing me email, calling me, and touching me a lot. It’s amazing how HORNY  gets women this technique.

#2 – Being a Bit Late

couple enjoying their first date
It might seem a bit counter intuitive – but arriving a bit late to the date makes women feel attraction towards you. Here’s why it’s important to arrive a bit late to the first date, so you don’t look needy.

Always be 10 minutes late, no matter how bad it looks. Doing this, transforms you into a challenge.

#3 – Let Her Speak 60% of the Time

Most men talk too much when they’re out on a date. They want to tell her everything about them. This is bad, because women like things like mystery, intrigue and unpredictability. If you want to get a second date, don’t tell her your life’s story during the first date. It makes her uncomfortable. Instead, be laid back and let her do the talking. .. and try to avoid boring topics on a first date.

#4 – Don’t Suggest Another Meeting Right Away

If at the end of the date, you know you two are clicking, don’t try to book the second date right then and there. When you suggest another meeting, you look very needy. Instead, be mysterious and don’t show any sign of interest yet. I know that  you want to see her again… but if you look to eager to go out with her again, she might lose her interest in you-  because now she know that she can’t have you.

Women want what they can’t have!

#5 – Don’t Maintain Eye Contact

Everyone knows that in order to look confident, you must be able to maintain eye  contact. …But every rule has an exception. The only moment you shouldn’t follow this tip is this:

When she is talking, don’t make eye contact… but when you talk, make eye contact always.

The reason this works is because it makes you a challenge. It lets her know that you won’t give her you’re whole attention right away…  so she must earn it. When she’s talking get distracted with something.

“Don’t put your entire  focus on your date. “Even though the goal is connecting with her, you also want to be a challenge” says dating advisor David DeAngelo.

#6 – Ask for the Date with Confidence

The reason most women reject men, is because of their lack of confidence. A few things to do to come across as confident are:

  • Call her fairly soon, but not the first day. You don’t wanna look needy.
  • Don’t ask her, just tell her. “Hey, come to the game with me on Friday”.
  • Make sure you keep the call short and simple.
  • Don’t leave messages if she doesn’t pick up. This lowers your value in front of her.

#7 – Maintain Your Composure

You don’t wanna seem nervous on a date. Women aren’t attracted to nervous and insecure guys. They want calm and confident men. So move and talk slowly and seem more composed. Never lose your cool.

#8 – Being Interesting

Don’t make the first date an interview. Find some topics women love to talk about and stick to them. Here are some great  topics to talk about with a woman.

#9 – Appear Laid-back

Look, if you want to attract a woman on a first date, be laid back. Don’t care about the outcome, it’s just the first coffee-date! Don’t put pressure on her Be relaxed. Don’t look like you’re about to have a job interview. So don’t lean in, lean back. Don’t tell about your feelings too soon.

#10 – Know the Signs She Wants to be Kissed

When a girls wants to be kissed, she’ll often give you green flags. In this article I’m gonna tell you how to recognize if it’s the right moment. Also I’ll tell you what to do if she’s not giving you green flags.

Thinking of Dating a Younger Man? Here’s 5 Thing You Need to Consider

Older women dating younger men is something that’s become a lot more common and socially acceptable over the years, from Mrs Robinson to Stifler’s Mom to Samantha in Sex and The City. While it’s not quite taboo any more, it’s still sure to raise some eyebrows but let’s be honest with each other shall we? The edginess of an older woman and younger man relationship is something that adds to the excitement of it and is certainly part of the appeal for both people in the relationship.

Here is a short list of 5 things that you must consider before entering your first relationship with a younger man.

1. Be careful if you are looking for a long term relationship from your guy. There’s a good chance your younger man doesn’t see you as marriage material. This is why it’s so important to know what each person’s relationship goals are from the very beginning. The age difference may be exciting to him for a casual fling but he may not be able to see himself settling down with a woman too much his senior. If he doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family watch out, he may not be thinking long term even if you are.

2. Keep up or stay out of the way. If you’re serious about dating younger men you have to be ready for the fact that he’s probably going to have a lot of energy, that’s what you were hoping for right? The tricky part is when it comes to the times that you can’t keep up or just don’t want to go out clubbing or to a bar, don’t stand in his way. Let him go and remember he was attracted to you because you weren’t like the women his age; you’re cool, understanding and not needy.

Don’t end up his sugar momma, unless you want to. The role reversal, from what society has seen as typical for so long, can get pretty confusing at times. Often in the cougar relationship you’ll find that you have more financial independence, a higher paying career and just better ‘things’ in general. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling like you should pay for every dinner or date you go out on. Let your young beau contribute, unless you choose to be his sugar momma.

4. Don’t let age fool you. At the end of the day, a person’s age isn’t much more than a number. The compatibility with a man will be based on his intellect and maturity but more than anything else, your relationship’s success will come down to you sharing similar relationship goals. So, while you’re on the lookout for a younger man, don’t let someone else pass you by just because of their age.

5. Remember, you’re his girlfriend not his mother. It’s easy to sometimes see your younger man like an excited little puppy, that’s OK, who doesn’t like puppies? The thing to really watch out for is when your nurturing instinct kicks in. Caring for your guy is one thing but making a fuss and mothering him will cross over the line into creepy.

There are a lot of great reasons to have a relationship with a younger man and plenty of reasons for it to work too. Remember though, like with any relationship, go into it knowing what you want to get out of it.